Society, You’re A Crazy Breed… Permission To Be “Flakey” & Change Your Life.

Society Can Be A Real Pain In The A** Sometimes

Not the society that allows us to benefit from a greater whole; that’s just one of the upsides. But moreso the underlying pressure and voices from family, friends, media, etc., that makes us not want to go against the mainstream or the status quo.

The unfortunate part is that a lot of time it’s pretty unclear that the voices in your head aren’t Necessarily your voices, it’s the voices resonating that societal imprint.

Wait. Am I the only one that hears multiple voices?! Shit.

That voice that told me once that “I should own a house by the time I’m 30…,” wasn’t my voice or even my thought, it was simply an echo I had heard my whole life from outside voices and opinions. Heck, in hindsight I really had no clue what I wanted out of my life when I was in my 20s, so how would I have known what I “should” do?

For instance, I used to look at my constant search for “what I really want” as flighty. I used to have thoughts like “man, I bet people think I’m all over the place and that I don’t have a clue” and “what am I doing with my life,” as I continued to experiment with the equation of my life.

But I came to a point where I actually started to respect my decision to keep searching for what I wanted instead of simply settling for what society might be more comfortable with my life looking like.

Society, have mercy on me
I hope you’re not angry if I disagree
Society, crazy and deep
I hope you’re not lonely without me

—Eddie Vedder, Jerry Hannan

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Society, Have Mercy On Me…I Hope You’re Not Angry If I Disagree…

So where “wow, you change jobs more than I change underwear” might have been an insult in the past, I would now take that as a compliment! 

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Where starting (and ending) multiple side-hustles, continuing to work past relationships that aren’t right, or going back to school again to pursue a different degree might be something that society deems “flakey,” unproductive or indecisive , I say BRAVO! Get at it!

To me this just means that you…well, we…are willing to put in the work and challenging the easy route, or the Joneses path, to make sure that we’re finding our own true path.

Life’s too short and too long to go through it with a mediocre job, relationship, etc. If you haven’t read the very short novel by Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist, check it out. Good stuff in that one if you still feel like you’re searching. (I still re-read it regularly!)

Cheers!
— Jason